Boone Center Family Track | Pepperdine University

Boone Center Family Track

The Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine is a training and resource center that promotes healthy relationship skills for lives of purpose, service, and leadership. Focusing on the relational and spiritual development of young adults and married couples, the Boone Center offers specialized education and programming to young adults, professionals, and communities of faith to strengthen their own relationships and impact the lives of those they serve.

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Ed Gray

Prepare/Enrich Certification Workshop (Training for Premarital Counseling)

Prepare/Enrich is one of the most widely used programs for premarital counseling. It is a customized couple assessment that identifies a couple's strength and growth areas. A trained facilitator helps the couple discuss and understand their results as they are taught proven relationship skills. This training includes certification and all the materials to get started using Prepare/Enrich in your community, as well as one complimentary online scoring credit. A spouse may share materials and attend the workshop at no additional charge.

Dr. Ed Gray is director of the Master of Arts in Counseling program at Harding School of Theology in Memphis, Tennessee. He has been a marriage counselor for over 40 years, a professor for 23 years, and a Prepare/Enrich Trainer for over 20 years. His most recent ministry publication is Leaders Who Last.

Wednesday, 8:30 AM - 4:15 PM (with a 10 AM-1 PM break)

$195 per person. Register at

Jeff Reinke

Navigating the Church Through a Sexually Saturated Culture (From a Pastor's Personal Journey)

This session will look at how pornography is impacting the local church. The information will include the most recent statistics of pornography in the church and look specifically into the impact among pastors and marriages. The session will include a strategy for recovery and restoration, creating a culture of hope and safety.

Jeff Reinke has been the marriage and family pastor at North Coast Calvary Chapel in Carlsbad, California, for 21 years. He is the cofounder of The Marriage Resource, a educational, research and training center to help strengthen marriages in the Southern California area. He has been married to his wife Robin for 27 years. He was a two-sport scholar athlete and graduate from USC. He received a BS in political science, an MA in education, and a master's degree in marriage and family therapy and education.

Wednesday, 8:30-9:15 AM

Robin Reinke

A Spouse's Journey with Pornography and the Road to Restoration

This session will confront the epidemic problem of pornography in the church through the eyes of a licensed marriage and family therapist and the wife of a minister. Topics addressed will be: identifying the problem, how the brain is affected, how the marriage and family are affected, self-talk for the spouse, and how to talk to your kids about pornography.

Robin Reinke has been a licensed marriage and family therapist for over 20 years. She is a trained Restoration Therapist and has been a pastor's wife for 27 years.

Wednesday, 9:30-10:15 AM

Norman Wright

Families Experiencing Loss, Grief, and Trauma (Resources and Help When Tragedy Strikes)

This practical session focuses on the impact of the loss of a parent, spouse, child, or sibling upon a family. Ministering at a time of terminal illness vs. sudden and/or traumatic events will be discussed. Specific recovery strategies will be presented with an emphasis upon rebuilding the family.

H. Norman Wright, DMin, is a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist. He was former director of the Graduate Department of Marriage, Family, and Child Counseling at Biola University. He was in private practice for over 30 years. He is the author of over 90 books—including Experiencing Grief, The Complete Guide to Crisis and Trauma Counseling, Helping Those in Grief, Recovering from Losses in Life, Reflections of a Grieving Spouse, and When the Past Won't Let You Go. His current focus is in grief and trauma counseling and critical incident debriefings. He is a certified trauma specialist ICISF instructor for Grief Following Trauma and Emotional and Spiritual Care. He has worked to bring peace in numerous trauma situations including New York City after 9/11, Hurricane Katrina, and the high school shootings in Aurora, Colorado, and San Bernardino, California.

Wednesday, 1:30-4:15 PM

Thema Bryant-Davis

Faith to Move Mountains: Ministry for Survivors of Intimate-Partner Abuse

Intimate-partner abuse occurs in all communities including faith-based communities. This presentation will provide an overview of the dynamics of intimate-partner abuse and the ways churches can become sanctuaries for those who are facing its consequences. Responses that will be discussed include liturgy, counseling, education, and community collaboration. Biblical support will be provided for the creation of ministry initiatives to assist those in recovery from these intimate wounds.

Thursday, 8:30-9:15 AM

Shifting to the Mind of Christ: Ministering to Abusive Partners

Within the church there are persons who have abused their spouses emotionally, physically, sexually, financially, and spiritually. This workshop will describe the dynamics of abusive partners and the ways the church can play a role in their transformation. Ministry initiatives that will be described include liturgy, pastoral care, accountability circles, and community collaboration. Church leaders will learn important do's and don'ts for addressing this pervasive and challenging area of ministry. As a church we have to move from silence and denial to active intercession in the spiritual and in the physical realm.

Thursday, 9:30-10:15 AM

Thema Bryant-Davis, PhD, is an ordained elder in the AME Church and an associate professor of psychology at Pepperdine University. She has worked with survivors and perpetrators of intimate-partner abuse. She is an author, researcher, and licensed psychologist. Her recent ebook entitled Tweets for the Soul: When Life Falls Apart is available on

Rhett Smith

Reframing Anxiety as God at Work in Our Lives

In this session you will learn how to better identify what anxiety is, tools to help manage anxiety, and how to reframe anxiety as God working in our lives. This session will help church leaders know how to help others identify anxiety, know when a referral is needed and give specific ideas about how to help others walk through this difficult time.

Rhett Smith is a former pastor turned licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) in private practice in Plano, Texas. He is the author of the books The Anxious Christian and What It Means to Be a Man. He is a graduate of Fuller Theological Seminary with both the MDiv and MAMFT. He and his wife Heather live in McKinney, Texas, with their two children.

Thursday, 1:30-4:15 PM

Hannah Parmelee

Relationship IQ Leader's Training: Connecting Young Adults and the Church

Ministry to young adults (ages 18-28) is a significant challenge for many churches. Relationship IQ (rIQ) targets this unique life stage and gives the church a ministry tool to reach and disciple young adults. This all-day training will teach you how to use the powerful rIQ material in your own setting and address current issues such as dating, sex, cohabitation, boundaries, and communication. You will receive the Relationship IQ Leader's Manual and be certified as a Relationship IQ Instructor. This is also an excellent resource to promote intergenerational relationships within the church family. Equip your young adults for healthy relationships and help them draw closer to God.

Hannah Parmelee is the Relationship IQ director for Pepperdine's Boone Center for the Family. She is the author of the Relationship IQ Leader's Manual, trains church leaders how to connect with young adults, and teaches young adults healthy relationship skills. She has a MS from Fuller Theological Seminary.

Friday, 8 AM-4:15 PM (with a 10 AM-1 PM break)

$250 per person. Register at
Special PBL rate includes the training and the Relationship IQ Leader's Manual.

Kelly Haer
Adam Haer

Do Singles Fit in Your Church? (Practical Steps to Move from Alienation to Understanding and Belonging)

As the average age of marriage continues to rise, increasing numbers of people find themselves single in the traditional family-centric church. Singles often feel misunderstood and uncared for while church leaders struggle to include them. This lecture will explore the emotional experience of singles through the framework of ambiguous loss, giving language to express the difficulties of waiting for someone who might not come. We will offer several practical suggestions, both personal and programmatic, on how to help singles feel known and find belonging in your congregation.

Kelly Haer is a visiting assistant professor of psychology at Pepperdine and licensed professional counselor. She is a researcher and speaker on the emotional experience of never-married women and is personally very close to the issue, having counseled many single men and women in her professional practice and having been a single adult in the church for over a decade.

Adam Haer is a spiritual director and has his MA in philosophy of religion and his MA in spiritual formation and soul care both from the Talbot School of Theology. He has worked in service programming and worship arts for the last 17 years at several large churches.

Friday, 8:30-9:15 AM



Connie Horton

Raising Resilient Children and Teens (The Roles of Families and Churches)

The director of Pepperdine's Counseling Center will share how college students today (including Christian college students) are more anxious and less able to cope with life's challenges. Parents, families, and church communities will be encouraged to consider their role in helping raise children and teens to become resilient, faithful adults.

Connie Horton, PhD, a licensed psychologist, is the associate vice president for student life and the senior director for counseling, health, and wellness at Pepperdine University. She enjoys teaching classes and retreats on parenting, marriage, and women's issues at her home congregation, Conejo Valley Church of Christ, and beyond.

Friday, 9:30-10:15 AM

Sharon Hargrave
Terry Hargrave

Families and Forgiveness (Healing Wounds in the Intergenerational Family)

Forgiveness is often thought of as a "letting go" of pain, anger, and bitterness. In this workshop, participants learn that forgiveness is not so much about "letting go" as it is about "putting back" and restoring as much love and trustworthiness to the relationships as possible. Using the Restoration Therapy Model and Christ's model of forgiveness, participants will understand the need for love and trustworthiness in identity and safety. This workshop teaches interventions that help individuals and families heal through attention to love, justice, and power.

Sharon Hargrave, LMFT, is the executive director of the Boone Center for the Family at Pepperdine University and the founder of MarriageStrong at Fuller Theological Seminary. Sharon and Terry speak nationally and internationally on issues pertaining to couples in ministry, marriage, intergenerational relationships, parenting, and the Restoration Therapy Model.

Terry Hargrave, PhD, is nationally recognized for his pioneering work with intergenerational families. He has authored numerous professional articles and 11 books including Forgiving the Devil and Families and Forgiveness (2nd ed. with Nicole Zasowski). He is a professor of marriage and family therapy at Fuller Theological Seminary.

Friday, 1:30-4:15 PM